Weddings and the Brides are the two adjacent words for sure. The bride’s attire, her jewelry, her make-up, hairstyle is closely monitored by everyone. She owns the complete right to throw tantrums, as it is her day, her big day. But what about the Groom? It’s his big day too. Even he deserves the desired amount of attention. After all he shares the equal partnership in the wedlock. Men are unlike women, they never crave for attention but giving them a bit of it won’t harm them too. The closed ones or even the Groom can himself take certain steps in order to steal the spotlight. Here are a couple of things that should be done to highlight the groom:
A solo performance of the groom can shower a lot of attention and appraisals on him. He can prepare something on a rocking number or even on a romantic one. To conclude the show he can call the bride upon the stage, this can spice-up the whole aura. Some groom based songs are ‘Ban ja tu meri Rani’ by Guru Randhawa, ‘Aaj se teri’ from the movie Padman, ‘Badri ki Dulhaniya’, and the evergreens like SRK’s ‘mehendi lga ke rakhna’ and Salman’s ‘tenu leke mai jawanga’.
The Christian wedding ritual of ‘Raising a Toast’ is quite impressive. So, in order to get some individual attention the Groom can say few charming words at the engagement or at the reception ceremony. This could steal the hearts of all including the bride. In your speech, you can briefly describe your love story, how you two decided to get along, what all hardships you faced. Or you can also tell that how much you love your partner, and what are your future couple goals. This adorable gesture of yours would be acknowledged by everyone.
The groom’s entry should be the prominent one. Like the bridal entry the groom’s entry too needs equal attention. It can be of various types like the perky one with the band and baaja, performing Bhangra through the way. Or a classy one, on a vintage car. You can also do it in the basic traditional way on a horseback. In fact in Rajasthan, a Maharaja Style entry, on elephant is very popular.
Yes, the bride’s lehenga is often the talk of the town but with little efforts, the Groom can also be a show stopper at the wedding. The colors like icy blue, dusty rose, beige, steel grey and peach are making round these days. A designer Sherwani in any of these colors with a fancy men’s stole will surely give you a dapper look.
It is the prime element of the Groom’s attire. According to your own community culture you can wear different stuff like Pagdi, Turban or Sehra. Padgi and turban are famous within the Sikh and few Muslim communities. And a typical Sehra contains a veil. Apart from its cultural value it also defines the style statement of the Groom. So, you can consult any famous designer to decide exactly which type of headdress will suit you the best.
These were the things on which the groom can himself pay attention on. Now, there are few ways through which the family, friends and other closed ones can make the groom feel special. The first thing that comes into mind is the ‘Dulha’ based rituals. ‘Tilak’, in this ritual the bride’s brother offer various gifts and sweets to the Groom and his family. So, this function can be performed at a large scale as the centre of attraction during this ceremony is the Groom. Next custom is the ‘Dwarchar’ also known as ‘Var-poojan’ at some places. This is a sort of ritual which takes place when the groom arrives at the wedding place. The groom is welcomed and blessed by the elders of the Bride’s party. This function for sure needs some limelight.
The Bride can also pamper the groom is many ways. She can surprise him with some gift hampers, goodies and can even say something nice for him publically during any of the functions. Everyone just needs to understand this now, that it is not only the boy’s job to make his girl feel special. The girl can also express herself in many ways so as to make his man feel wanted and desirable. Men may not convey their feelings well but they too deserve some applaud in life and especially on their big day.
