Marriage is the most complicated affair in India. Because unlike the foreign culture where only the girl and boy decide to get married in a small ceremony with their close family and friends, in our country the whole family of the bride and groom including the extended relatives are involved in this. And every opinion matters too. So, there are quite a lot of things that have to be kept in mind before proceeding for marriage, one such thing is the kundali.
It is true that we Indians are still very much attached to our roots. Even in this recent scenario most of us believe in our old traditional values. And it’s very good. Because all the information and scripts of the ‘Vedas’ and ‘Upanishads’ have some scientific logic behind it and they aren’t based on some blind believes. This point of fact is now accepted all over the world and hence the concepts like Vedic astrology and horoscopes have been actually introduced as a subject in many of the universities.
A mother nourishes her baby for 9 months inside her womb. And during those 9 months 9 planets put their different energies on the foetus. So if you think that your ‘kundali’ or your birth chart can’t predict your future, then you are absolutely wrong.
Horoscope matching is the first step in fixing up a marriage. Kundali matching is done on the basis of ‘gun milan’. ‘Guns’ are the qualities of a person. It is said that a person has 36 ‘guns’ in total. If a person’s kundali matches with the other from more than 18 points the couple can proceed for marriage. If the points are less than 18 or if there is any type of ‘dosh’ in the birth chart then you can think twice or can consult some reputed astrologer. Because in such cases the couple can face hardships in sailing their marriage boat post the wedding.
‘Gun Milan’ is also referred as ‘Ashta-koot Milan’ because these 36 points have been categorised into 8 aspects. Let’s see how these aspects help us in finding the right match.
The ‘Varan’ of the girl and boy is responsible for the compatibility. If the points are good then they will understand each other, they will be together in the tough times and will be mature enough to handle all the mood swings of their partner. If the ‘varan’ of the couple does not match then ego clashes can happen, the couple may fight over small issues that can lead to an unhappy married life.
‘Vasya’ of the boy and girl tells that power and control of the house will be with whom whether there will be a balance between them or not. Balance is necessary in every relationship; if the points do not match in this case then one person may dominate the other, throughout their lives. Or in the worst case, both the people can be dominating or submissive. In both scenarios, things between the couple can turn ugly.
The ‘grihmaitri’ denotes the family life, that is whether the girl will adjust in the boy’s family atmosphere or not. It also tells that how affectionate will be the duo towards each other. The peace of house is mandatory for each member of the family, if the ‘grihmaitri’ does not match then there can be ugly fights and which can lead to a completely distorted married life. Love and affection is also an essential element, if the points match in this aspect then love will last forever in your life.
‘Nadi’ of a person is related to the future generation. It tells that the offspring of the couple will be healthy or not, mentally and physically both ways. There are 3 naadis – aadi, madhya, anyta. Everyone wishes for a healthy baby and so it is very mandatory that this ‘gun’ matches and in case there are un-favourable points in this aspect then there is a special ‘Naadi-dosh nivaran puja’ done to kill all the ill effects. This prayer ceremony is done prior to the wedding.
The mentality of the person is extremely important to match when talking about marriage. If one person is quiet narrow minded and the other one is very much broad minded then clashes are bound to happen. One loves freedom and social life while the other is totally happy in his own confined place then it gets quite difficult for them to adjust with each other. ‘Taara’ should be matched in this case.
‘Gana’ of a person tells his temperament. There are three ‘ganas’- Dev, Manushya and Rakshasa. The people of ‘Dev Gana’ are peace loving, they usually keep their life simple and sorted. and ‘Manushya’ are in between, in other words they get influenced easily by the others and the ‘Rakshasa’ are a bit wild people they love adventures and all sorts of crazy fun loving activities. So, it is very important to match the ‘gana’ of the ‘would be’ husband and wife.
A person has his own needs and wants. He desires a partner who can fulfil his emotional as well as physical needs. And hence it is necessary to match the ‘yoni’ of the future partners as physical compatibility between the couple is an important part of a relationship. It is said that the ‘yoni’ of the duo should be the same and not different from each other. If the case is vice-versa then they will lack sexual interest in each other and will gradually grow apart.
There is an important thing that while matching kundali moon sign is preferred rather than the sun sign. The moon in groom’s birth chart should be in the 7th and 12th house from the bride’s moon. 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th houses are not considered good. If we talk about the bride’s house, if the moon is placed in the 12th house from the male, it is bad, whereas the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th are believed to be auspicious.
These are some major points that should be kept in mind before fixing a couple for marriage. Apart from this the other two major things that can cause trouble is the ‘Manglik dosha’ and ‘kaal sarp dosha’.
‘Manglik dosha’ as we all know, can lead to hazardous effects on the partner’s health. This ‘dosha’ has few stages, if the person is low manglik, the effects will be less harmful. But if a person is high manglik it can even lead to the death of the other person. So, in this case the manglik person needs to marry a peepal tree before the actual marriage. This will eliminate the death risk. As, the ill effects will be taken by the tree and the real marriage with the groom is considered to be the second marriage, which is safe.
The other dosha is the ‘Kal sarp dosha’. If this dosha is present in your kundali then you will have to face some problems and delays in every work you do. It can be removed by a prayer ceremony at a temple in Ujjain. This pooja is mandatory before marriage as it is said that without the cancellation of this dosha a marriage can’t prosper and flourish.
All of the beliefs might not be true but some definitely have a base. Astrology is a complete science if one tries to understand it. Based on calculations, our whole life can be unveiled if you get the right astro consultation. So, be aware of the frauds but try to explore the things your parents believe in. Because everything has a sure shot logic behind it, you just need to educate yourself a bit.